Good day, my fellow witches and wizards! Our article is sponsored by WonderWitch! WonderWitch – Bringing Love into your Life since 1952! Today’s endorsement? Crush Blush! Just a dab on the cheeks, and you’ll catch the eye of the person you most desire! Today’s article is brought to you with a question from one, ‘Young and Confused,’ who will prompt us on our discussion on crushes and that aching feeling of longing.
Q: I have a crush on a professor…how do I deal with this? I want to get over it somehow, but I don’t know how! Is it just a phase?
A: The thing to remember with crushes, is that they are usually little more than infatuation. Infatuation is a strong feeling, and sometimes it burns, but you can take comfort in the fact that it is fleeting. Oftentimes, things like logic, circumstance, and the general removal of rose-tinted glasses, will do the trick to stamp out any odd ‘flame.’
In this instance, when it comes to a student admiring a professor, simply remind yourself of the difference in age and status, and time will do the rest for you. You should focus your intentions on your schoolwork, your friends, and any other potential crushes you might have that are significantly more appropriate. Crushes like these are always phases that you later look back at and laugh about, and are generally caused by the desire to want to feel ‘grown up’ and be as accomplished as the adult. So focus on yourself and eventually, you will be!
When it comes to crushes, especially those that are unfortunately unrequited, there are a few simple things you can do to cure your blues. All of those things revolved around bettering yourself and learning to appreciate who you are as a person, and help to bring a sense of moving forward in life. In a way, they are rituals to help you leave your feelings in the past, so they do not weigh you down any longer. And now I bring you, seven tips on how to get over a crush!
- Cut or dye your hair. (If you’re an adult, I also suggest piercings and/or tattoos!) – One surefire way to feel as though you’re moving forward, is a drastic change that you’ve been wanting. Maybe you’ve always wanted to be a redhead, or have a dragon tattooed on your chance. Now is as good a time as any to bring about a new you!
- Travel – Exploring helps you appreciate the world around you, and feel more grounded with reality. It also helps you feel more independent, so you can say, “I don’t need you, useless feelings! Sod off!”
- Listen to sad music – It’s okay to mourn your feelings, so put on an old record and just belt it out. Maybe cry a little. I won’t judge.
- Alternatively, listen to upbeat music! – You can also pump yourself up and get into that forward thinking, independent mindset that you don’t need to linger or cling onto something that doesn’t help you or serve any sort of positive purpose.
- Pick up a new hobby – Yet another way to feel you’re progressing into a new you, is to pick up on something you’ve always wanted to learn. Maybe you’ve always wanted to be a wiz at Wizard’s Chess, or perhaps you want to take up painting enchanted portraits. Or perhaps you want to vent your feelings through an impassioned duel. There are endless possibilities for you to explore!
- Friends! – A very important option is to spend time with your friends, and get support. Nothing is a better distraction than running away from Peeves through the hallways because he caught you hiding dung bombs in a teacher’s classroom, all the while laughing your lungs out.
- Treat yourself! – A theme that seems common in my articles, is my insistence that you must love and take care of yourself. This is no exception. Get extra sleep, take a day to be lazy and catch your breath, read that book you’ve been wanting to read, buy that crystal you’ve had your eye on – Worst case scenario, you can always throw it at the person your crush is with. I mean… what?
In summary, the best way to get over a crush is to simply not allow yourself to linger in the past, and to remember to enjoy life. Moving forward means moving on!