It’s time to ruffle a few feathers. The Raven Quill is here to present to you your daily dose of advice. It’s a bit short this time so send those questions in! I know all your lives aren’t perfect.
“My boyfriend seems to be too friendly to so many girls around him. He would claim he is being just ‘friendly’ but who knows what other feelings will grow from it? If I would discuss this with him, it will make me look selfish, right? How can I let him know about this uncomfortable feelings? Should I leave him as he is? Please help me.”
Sometimes you have to give the benefit of the doubt and give that trust to him. If you start putting him on a leash and start to look jealous, he will feel you are controlling him and become distant with you. That is probably the last thing you need. Input yourself into his friend’s lives, he shouldn’t be afraid if you want to be friends as well since you do come as a set together. If he starts to be a bit defensive about having you about when they are, that is when you should start raising suspicions.
“There’s something which I believe that no one around me agrees with. Every time I talk about it, people get hostile and yell at me or storm off. I feel completely alone. Even my friends won’t listen and shut me down. What can I do? They don’t have to agree, I just wish people wouldn’t treat me like I’m horrible.”
-Not Hateful, Just Worried
If it is multiple people who are having troubles with something you are saying, maybe take a moment to see how you are saying it. There might be not be anything wrong with it at all, it’s the way you are presenting it to them. If that isn’t working so well, and you really just want them to listen, don’t expect them to see your views as their views. You have to be mutually respectful of theirs as well if you wish for it in return.