Article written by Lynessa O’Connor
Walking the halls of this castle, one may notice quite a few sets of twins about, so many in fact that students have been heard complaining of sudden onsets of deja vu’. I tried to think of a way one day to explain to a friend what it was like to be a twin, and how the connection I felt to my twin was stronger than anything else. The more I thought about how much people just did not, or could not understand me sometimes, I knew my twin always gets me. It’s difficult to explain to a non-twin, exactly what it’s like, the connection between myself and the brother I shared a womb with. The more I think about how much people do not, or cannot understand me at times, the more I am convinced my twin always gets me. So I decided to share with you all a little bit about what life is like as a twin through the eyes of fellow twins here at Hogwarts and through our eyes.
I had the opportunity to get to talk with several different pairs of twins that all had something to say on what it’s like to be a twin in general. Mana and Thana Izumi had a different childhood than most twins and grew up apart. Although they didn’t have some of the same experiences others had, their insight is still just as valuable. Thana was quick to point out that people tend to think that twins are just carbon copies of the same person. “Well, sometimes people think we are the same person.” Mana wanted to share this important tip to dealing with twins, “Naw, seriously though, I mean ya get ta know people individually. Me sis talks like well, like a Londonah an ah’m bout as north as ya get up in Newcastle.” So, even though they might look alike, they are each their own person.
Lysander Diaval also had some insight to share with people when talking of twins, “We balance each other out. I keep Trusten more grounded and Trusten reminds me to be less serious. It’s easier to breathe when he is around. Much of our childhood was spent depending on each other. I made sure he was safe and healthy, he made sure I was sane…” When it comes to twins there is a bond that we all share that may not be quite understood by others. Lysander did touch on this in our talk, “I suppose all I can ask is to treat us as individuals, as our own people. But do not forget the kind of bond we do have.” This bond is perhaps one of the hardest things for other people to understand about twins. Where as normal siblings begin to bond when the other is born, we’ve got 9 solid months of bonding in before we made our world debut.
So this little Unicorn wanted to share with you a few tips on things to understand about twins:
1) We are our own person. Just because we shared the womb does not mean we share a mind or body for that matter.
2) Twin-tuition is not so much that we know how the other is feeling every second of the day but more we know just something is off, a lot of people have this.
3) Understand that we need our twins. There are times when something is wrong or off that our twin might be the only one that understands and it is totally natural.
4) At times we may spend more time with our twins than other people, please understand this is nothing personal.
5) Remember, we strive to be individuals just like everyone else even though we might share a birthday or even our looks.
Understanding what your friends that are twins could be going through or experiencing might help you to be a better friend or perhaps might help you to understand them a bit better. As a twin, I find that my comfort comes from my brother at the times when I feel lost or confused, he is my lighthouse. Even though I love being around my friends and I appreciate their support, he’s the one I started my life with and I love him dearly and would not, could not have wished or asked for anyone else. Even if he did eat all the food and stunt my growth.