“Is it love or is he just messing with me?”
Love is such a complex emotion and state, that one cannot simply draw a single card for an answer about it, yet it is one of the things most commonly questioned. For this, five cards were pulled, and five questions asked for this one. That said, I’m very very very sorry.
The Querent’s Position: The Hanged Man
The Hanged Man tells us that now is the time for you to consider taking a step back to calculate all of your options. Sometimes you might be rushing too quickly into a relationship, or standing too far back from a pursuit. You must allow yourself the time necessary to reflect on your next move. In love this card could also symbolise a level of entanglement that you are not quite ready to undertake.
Is this love real or a teenage crush?: The High Priestess
Love is a mystery. Each person experiences it differently. But when the High Priestess shows up in relation to a reading on love one must accept the possibility that not all is being seen appropriately in the relationship. In dating and romance it is a time of bickering and deception. The High Priestess tells you to ask questions in your relationship or to look for areas in which you are being duped. If you find that you are being swept off of your feet right now, it may be a good time to hold back and try to slow things down.
Will the querent get hurt in this relationship?: The Tower
Short answer: yes. Change, albeit forceful change is being thrust upon you now and though it may feel like it is happening against your will you need to remember that this is for your own good. Often this card comes up when change has been in the works for some time and you have resisted or ignored it. There have been small problems that are increasing and situations are getting out of control. The Tower card represents the Universe telling you that you require this change to happen for your own spiritual growth. When the Tower card appears in a love reading, then you must understand that the shape of relationship is no longer going to be able to keep the same shape as it always has. Make doubly sure at this time that you do not have a fantasy connection with your partner, because fantasy blocks only build fantasy buildings and sometimes we are more attached to our fantasy buildings than our real ones, but fantasies always bring the tower down when reality comes to light.
Should the querent just let things take their course?: The Five of Coins
Short answer: no. When the Five of Pentacles shows up in a love reading it often will accompany feelings of abandonment, insecurity, or a general lack of attention. The card is not a mild card and usually when it appears there is a serious need to look at all aspects of the relationship and to ensure that you are getting your base needs met. Sometimes the Five of Pentacles will show up when things are at their worst and because of this there is hope that it will get better but in what way is up to you. Ponder how you are really feeling about your relationship in a logical way. Try to separate yourself from the raw emotions relating to recent strife in your relationship and focus on the true root of the problem. Often you will not find that the relationship itself is not the problem but rather other areas, particularly work or money, are causing a strain that is bleeding into your relationship.
The future of the relationship.: The Ten of Wands
In love, the Ten of Wands is telling you that you have taken on too much in your relationship and that you are not appropriately communicating your needs or expressing yourself. You are creating a passive aggressive spiral that would be avoidable if you would only allow yourself to open up and be honest. You need help, everyone does. In the pursuit of love, vulnerability is of key importance. You cannot continue to be the only one taking on the responsibility. Seek counseling if the relationship is too hard for you. Having a third person, an outsider’s perspective can help tremendously, one step at a time.
(Editor’s note: If you have a question you’d like to ask the cards, send an owl to Persephone Vitrac (alexis1oreily) or Tara de Barbarac (TaraTheBarbarian).