“I’m torn about my friends constantly at each others’ throats. What should I do?”
I had to pull more than one card for this question:
The Six of Cups
The Six of Cups is a card of childhood, nostalgia, naïve happiness, and generosity. You want to return to the happy memories of your past, oftentimes, though, these memories are indeed a thing of the past and reflect aspects of your life that have since vanished. It suggests that you need to take time out to heal, look back on the past and all the good that lies there. During this period of reflection, there is no need to focus on the negative. Instead, bring all of the positive energy from the past into your present and your future. However, it is important that you live in the present and accept your current circumstances rather than always living in the past.
The Ten of Cups (Reversed)
Upright, the Ten of Cups is a card of happy families and deep love and respect for all involved. Reversed, however, something is getting in the way of this perfect picture and the emotional connection is being blocked. Your hopes of a harmonious relationship are being thwarted, for now. Aim to treat each other with respect and love in order to restore harmony and peace to your relationship. Focus on how you can treat others with compassion and respect, in order for them to eventually follow suit and give you the same treatment.
However, I feel like the cards don’t give enough of a picture here, so I’ll add to it. It’s so bloody awful when your mates are fighting because it leaves you in this terrible position where you still love your friends but they’d rather eat a rusty nail and slime salad than be in the same room together. You can’t pretend like it isn’t happening so if one (or more) of them wants to talk about it, let it happen. Don’t pick sides and for god’s sake don’t tell them what each other said, just be sensitive to the situation. Unless one of them is being a right bludger, most fights are simply about a misunderstanding. If you value your friendship with these people you need to remain neutral. That means no complaining, no siding and no gossiping back and forth between them. It’s really tempting to join in but the only way to get your friendship circle back together is to remain in the neutral zone. If you need to talk to someone, choose another friend who doesn’t know your other two friends. Again, don’t take sides but gently push your friends to try to see each other again. Keep your words positive and say the same thing to both parties. That way you come out smelling like roses when they reconcile… and if they don’t reconcile then there’s no harm done. When a person hurts another person, it can take AGES for them to be okay again. If your friends have forgiven each other, don’t rush them. Let things go back to normal in their own time or let the friendship start a new phase that’s different to the old one. Things change and people change so as long as your mates aren’t staring pointy daggers at each other from opposite ends of a party then accept it and move on. Civility might be the best they can manage right now.
(Editor’s note: If you have a question you’d like to ask the cards, send an owl to Persephone Vitrac or Saffron Foxclaw.)