” Dear Poe,
I hope you don’t mind if I write this under Anonymous, because what I have to say sounds pretty weird and I don’t want anyone to know it’s me. I have read the letters you have published from other people and I gained enough courage to finally write down what I have on my mind. I don’t know if its sick or not, but I’m hoping that you would give me some good feedback. I’ll just start out by saying that I have a huge crush on my best friend. I think. I’m not even sure about it. I mean, I like them a lot.. but it’s a little more than just like I think.
Please give me some guidance. What should I do? Should I talk to my friend about my feels for them? Should I try to push these feelings away? Is it normal? How do I know if it’s not just me being silly? I’m so confused..I would appreciate any advice you can offer. Thank you very much. ”
First of all, thank you for reading my other letters to readers, and I’m glad they’ve given you enough courage to write with your own question. Second of all, your feelings are completely normal, I think everyone feels this way once in a while. And some of the best relationships form from a friendship. But I can also understand the fear: Some of the best friendships have been broken from one person wanting more.
I was actually in your situation a few years ago. It caused for some very awkward interactions. Eventually I told the guy how I felt, but you see, he already had a girlfriend! So, we ended up avoiding each other for a year, eventually we became friends again but it was completely awkward!
In your situation I’m assuming your friend is not already involved in another relationship. Thats great! You have time to see if he/she likes you back, and no one else vying for their attention too. Heres what you do…
The next time they ask to hang out with you, tell them you already made other plans. It sounds kind of rude, but what your going to do is study their reaction. Are they cool about it? Or are they upset? Or trying to hide that they are upset and acting cool about it? If they act like they’re cool with it and it doesn’t bother them, they probably only have friendly feelings toward you. If they seem hurt or like they’re trying to be cool when really they’re hurt, they might have feelings toward you because they really really want to hang out with you!
Next time you two are in the library or your favorite hang out spot, try scooching closer to them on the couch. Check out their reaction. If they smile they probably like you more then a friend. If they scooch further away, they’re probably just friends and then you can make up a lie like “Oh sorry, my butt itched” or something!
Also, you have to do a lot of people studying in this situation. Do they edge closer to you at random times? Or keep a good distance? Do they trust you with their deepest darkest secrets? Can you stay up all night with them just talking nonsense? Does the whole world melt away when you’re with them?
Finally, if they seem to like you too, let them know your feelings. The best case scenario is that they like you too and just didn’t know how to say it. Worst case scenario…. they’re a big jerk and you were better off without them! If thinking of telling them gives you an anxiety attack, try drinking a calming drought or two before. Be careful with this though, you don’t want to drink too much and then you might slur your words, or worse pass out! Word has it there’s a Ravenclaw girl who will make certain potions for you if you’re her friend and actually need them. Although for this, she probably wouldn’t!
So, watch them, look for the body language and you might end up with an amazing lifelong relationship!
Best of luck,